We love Krista's perspective on agriculture and we are
thrilled to bring more of her opinions to our women in ag out there
on PinkTractor.com. Today, Krista shares her thoughts on standing
proud as a farm wife!
Growing up, I had dreams, so many dreams. My dream job changed
on a regular basis. I wanted to be a teacher, I wanted to work in a
law office, I wanted to do this and I wanted to do that. I had
plans to move to the "big city," live in a studio apartment and
work in an office setting. I had no intentions of getting married,
having children and farming had NEVER crossed my mind.
As life choices often do, they steered me down a different path.
I am now a wife, mother and dairy farmer. I am proud to
be a dairy farmer's wife.
Over the past four years, I have met some of the most amazing
women I have ever met in my life. These women are the wives of
dairymen. They are proud to call themselves a wife. The dairymen
are proud to call them their wife. To them, the term "wife" is
not a looked down upon. It is something to be proud of. I
personally never wanted to be a wife because I was pretty
self-centered when I was young. It wasn't that I thought of wives
as unequal, it was simply because I only wanted to have to care
about myself. Yes, I know, super selfish person when I was
Most of these women have been farming since before I was even
thought of. Maybe they are "old fashioned" but I LOVE that about
them. By meeting these women, I have aspired to be a better wife
because of what they do on a regular basis. I am positive they wear
capes under their everyday clothing.
Society is so obsessed with putting a "title" to everything
these days. Not only does everything have a title, but some titles
are looked down upon. So let me paint a picture of what these wives
do on a daily basis using titles:
Chief, maid, nanny, teacher, accountant, secretary, taxi driver,
Sunday school teacher, choir leader, Farm Bureau board member,
co-op board member, farm owner, farm employee, tractor operator,
calf raiser, milker and the list could continue. But you know
what these women call themselves? They call themselves a wife
and they say it with pride.
They are in marriages where each partner is equal. They are
in a position where they are the helpmate of the man they love.
They are the women you meet and when asked what they do for a
living, they say dairy farmer. They are the women when signing
their names, sign it right above owner/operator. They are the women
that stands beside the dairyman and, to be honest, is crucial to
Doing the dishes, laundry, sweeping the floor or even picking up
dirty socks doesn't make you lesser of a person. You are just doing
a small task in a bigger picture. The thing is you need clean
clothes, clean dishes, etc… just because it is the wife that does
those tasks doesn't mean she isn't an equal.
When I meet someone for the first time and they ask what we
do for a living, I am proud to say that I am a dairy farmer. Or
when asked who my husband is, I am proud to say that I am the
farmer's wife. Why? Because I am proud of my farmer, I am
proud that he is mine and gosh darn it, I am proud to say
that I am a wife. I do not have time to go down the list of all my
titles… so I condensed them all into one, wife.
Maybe I am old fashioned, maybe I am out of touch with the rest
of society but I am proud to be the farmer's wife. I will go on
with the rest of my day; trying to keep up with dirty dishes,
taking on the huge pile of clothes on the couch, changing dirty
diapers, pay some bills, most likely end up running to town for
supplies, jump on the tractor at least once, feed some
calves and at the end of the day what I did was no less
important than what my husband did.
Wear that wife title proud, be proud of the man you married
and be proud to be his wife.
The Farmer's Wifee
Krista, aka the Farmer's Wifee, is a small town girl that grew
up in a logging community in Eastern Washington and married a first
generation dairy farmer. Together, she and her farmer have three
amazing children that they raise on their dairy farm of 150
jerseys, Holsteins and crosses. If you want to learn more
about Krista, check out her blog or find
her on Facebook!