Farm Girl Tips: You Married a City Boy

We can't all grow up on a farm. Not everyone is so lucky! When it comes to love, you can't help who you meet and who you fall in love with. We gave you our tips on marrying a farmer. Now we share some tips on what to do when you fall in love with a city boy - straight from farm girls who know!

Keep his belly full with food grown on the farm. My husband can't ask me to give up the farm life when I make sure he has fresh lamb on his plate! Also...share the tractor...the easiest way to get a city boy to help out is to let him drive the tractor!

My husband is an absolutely vital part of our operation! When you marry anyone who is coming to the farm, he's got to have a strong work ethic. That's way more important than where or who he came from. Anyone can be an important part to a farm's success if they are willing to play a little catch-up the first few years!

Patience, lots of patience! Understand that this is new, but he wouldn't be there if he didn't want to be!

Give him the keys to the equipment and you will have a partner for life!

Know that everything is an adjustment. You will be surprised what you can learn from each other.

Give him a taste of the real life, the fresh air, the fresh food and everything the farm has to offer. He will give you a whole new attitude from being on the farm.

Never give up on him. Respect his questions, communicate and try to teach him the best way you can. Let him pitch in! Once you live in the country, it is pretty addictive!

Let him handle the baby animals! Those big eyes and soft breath will make any hardship melt away. Therapy you just can't buy!

Let him take breaks. He is going to want hobbies or activities off the farm and you have to be supportive.

When you know he knows how to do a specific task, let him take the lead…and the glory.

Don't ever laugh at him unless he is laughing too! If too much fighting happens over a project, make him Google it and let him figure it out on his own. It works for us!

Let him know when he makes a mistake. But also let him know when it's a job well done! If you let him learn his strengths and passions on the farm, you will go far together!

Great tips! What did we miss? Share in the comments!

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Jo Ann - Tuesday, June 16, 2015 at 4:03:40 PM
Spot on ;) finally my way round :)
Lindsay Chichester - Tuesday, July 7, 2015 at 4:01:47 PM
My ranch girl tip with my city guy would be to communicate! They don't know what you want or how you want it done, as they haven't had as much experience.
Joni - Friday, October 16, 2015 at 6:57:41 AM
It's okay if he has an idea that is different than the way you've always done it (or the way your daddy did it). Give his idea a try!

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