She died almost 5 years ago, my mother-in-law, Marguerite Brown.
Yet, everywhere I look around this big old farm house and yard, I
still see her. She was a gentle yet strong and generous woman. By
example and in her own quiet way, she taught me how to cook and
bake, how to garden, how to honor the farm and the farmers, and how
My husband and I hosted the luncheon following her Service of
Remembrance at our home. My recipe box is filled with her
handwriting and I chose to make Marguerite's most loved foods to
serve our family, friends and neighbors. She was known for
full-fledged meals, cookies, cakes and pies…but especially for her
And bread she did make and bake - cinnamon rolls, orange bows,
donuts, butterhorn rolls and loaves and loaves of rye or wheat
bread. It was several years into my "bread baking marriage" before
I realized that most bread recipes make fewer than 8 loaves at a
time. But not her recipe! At the bottom it reads: Makes 8 loaves.
Keep 5. Give 3 away.
Marguerite amply provided the best for her family. Then she went
beyond. The "give 3 away" was her way to "neighbor," leaving a
surprise for the mailman, helping a new mom or elderly friend,
bringing an aroma of "olden days" to someone's busy life.
As members of my Mastermind Group gathered at our farm for an
annual gathering, I was reminded that perhaps this type of giving
is a rural phenomenon. The group members all reside in large cities
throughout the U.S. and were surprised to learn that we consider
our "neighbors" anyone between our farm and town, 6 miles away.
Helping each other in time of need, sharing garden flowers, fruits
and vegetables, stopping farm trucks side-by-side on the gravel
road for brief chats, and keeping up with their children and
grandchildren were delightful concepts to them.
I also witness this same "giving spirit" each time we connect at
the multiple Women in Agriculture events held throughout our
country and beyond. As a presenter, I'm on-site early…then I get to
watch you arrive with your neighbors, moms, daughters and in-laws.
You look around the room joining friends you may not have seen in a
while. You warmly smile and greet new faces. You "give 3 away" when
you catch up with concerns, learn together and share laughter. You
"break bread" together over lunch.
In the last chapters of Marguerite's life, I can tell you that
she would rather have been the giver of care than the receiver. Yet
in her quiet, uncomplaining and genuine way, she did give… a smile,
a question about "you," a compliment. She was a continuous reminder
of what is good in this world and not to take that goodness for
granted. She will forever live in a wave to a neighbor, a whiff of
warm bread, the goodness of friends, a memory of mind and
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